Essential or Non-Essential? 5 Tips to help you decide before you ‘shut down’

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Spending time with family doing the things THEY love with them: that is essential!

Have you ever thought about what things in your life are truly essential and which should come before those which are not?  How can you tell?  The bible tells us there is a time for everything, but what must we actively do to make sure that our lives are arranged in such a way that we are doing the right thing at the right time?

As you may be aware the US government shut down their operations on October 1 (except for ‘essential’ services).  I was amazed, wondering how could an entire government of a country as big/significant/influential/powerful as the USA just … ‘shut down’???


As the Queen of my Kingdom, what would happen if I deemed certain things as non-essential e.g. washing laundry, cooking meals, cleaning my home, paying bills, going to the supermarket, looking after Nathan and spending quality time with family/friends?  On the flip side what if I said that posting articles to my blog, writing poetry and stories or checking my FB page and Twitter account were more essential?

Then there are my gym-workouts, bible reading/devotions and going to church – aren’t they all essential too?  What about if I extend this train of thought to look at my job e.g. when my executive thinks something is essential and I do not, how do we move forward?  Am I aware of my essential tasks vs. those that I am doing which may not truly matter in the end?

Maybe I should just ‘shut down’ my kingdom for a while … not!  Because even if I did, how sustainable would it be?

Definitely lots of food for thought, and even though shutting down our lives may not be a long term viable option for most of us, here is my take.

  1. First understand what is truly essential in our lives and what is not.
  2. Then, parcel out the priceless yet limited commodity known as time, so that we make sure we spend it where it matters most i.e. on the essential activities first, after which anything can follow.
  3. Next, make a written list to help keep us on track, rather than leave our proposed intentions airy fairy and without physical substance.
  4. All the while, monitor our progress and make any amendments necessary to ensure we are focusing on the essential areas.
  5. Never give up!  It make take a while to get it all together but it can be done!


I am not a US citizen, but I found this article written by Rachel Olsen on October 1 to be quite interesting, and thank her for encouraging me to do some serious thinking on where my focus in life should lie with this question: “Can you imagine being told that those tasks that you do all day each day are not truly essential?”  Click here to see what she says … and if necessary refine your ‘essential’ focus – today.  Then leave a comment to let me know how you are progressing.

Good luck!


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Barbadian mother and lover of laughter; story teller and best-selling author; happy to follow God's lead and to live my mantra: "you've gotta be a rainbow in the lives of others when it rains."

5 thoughts on “Essential or Non-Essential? 5 Tips to help you decide before you ‘shut down’”

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  2. Reblogged this on Living Life Day by Day and commented:

    One of the most interesting things about trying to recover from a serious viral illness is defining what things are essential and what are not. When your body is telling you it’s tired and worn out, my suggestion is that you listen … and take better care of yourself.


  3. Recently, I reconnected with a friend who moved on to higher heights in her career and who appeared to be grabbing the bull by the horns and running with it!

    It was great to renew our communication which was at a lull. That renewal cleared up a lot of perceptions and helped me to consider my good fortune during those times when I was quick to say “why me”?

    So, if I could make a contribution, let it be focused on being grateful and learning to say “why not me” .

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    Peace out!

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    1. Loved this thought the best: “I am sure I am not alone in this quest, because by virtue of us being human, we are susceptible to things that go bump in the night or the day!” Thanks for sharing this profound note which I am sure many of us can relate to.


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