I Make No Apologies: I Do NOT Like Lies

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I make no apologies.  I do not like liars and I do not appreciate the lies they tell; anything to do with lying makes my blood boil. 

Tell me a lie and I get upset when I find out.  Tell a lie on me and I go ballistic when I find out.  Tell a lie on me to someone who holds my job in their hands or a close friend/family member and I go insane when I find out.  And I will find out. 

I speak from first hand experience because lies played a big role in my separation and eventual divorce.  It started with one little ‘white’ untruth that mushroomed uncontrollably into a big hive of black ugly stinging hornets from which our little family never recovered.  

Thing is, I can’t even tell a lie because the person I’m speaking to can usually see L-I-E written all over my face.  Nope, my motto is: tell the truth and take the consequences, especially since I know the limitations of my poor old brain – it could never take the stress of remembering what lie I told, who I told it to, or when I told it to them.

I recall having an encounter of the “I’m going to kill somebody” kind once. Someone had told a lie on me to my boss and I was definitely not happy.  During the conversation with my manager I felt the heat expanding in my head as I started to sweat.  I was fuming; she preferred to believe the lie and nothing I said made a difference. 

Even though I saw lots of red at the time I stayed calm, controlling my anger as best I could before walking quietly away (to explode in the confines of the restroom).  As far as I was concerned when I finally regained my composure and emerged from the ladies, I had managed the scenario rather well even though I was still upset but my girlfriend had a totally different take when I animatedly relayed my story to her. 

“Why are you letting this bother you so much? Haven’t you gotten past these types of things by now as a daughter of God? Is this how you should be living your life, worrying about who is telling lies on you or what lies they are spreading? Is the anxiety really worth it?  Where is your faith?”

There it was: the slap to the head aka ‘what is wrong with you woman?’ message in those five little questions. And yes, maybe I should have been bigger than the situation but I had a few burning questions of my own to ask.

  1. If you live your life as best as you can, trying hard to do what’s right by God and by extension man, why do people feel they have the right to unjustly attack your integrity/character by telling lies on you?
  2. Why do those who hear the lies believe the untruths they are told in spite of knowing the ‘real’ you?
  3. Why do people then use this false information to pass judgment on you?
  4. Why is it expected that as a Christian you will simply sit back and do nothing when you are wrongfully accused? 
  5. Does anyone else share even a little of my concern?

I strongly believe that integrity is everything. I want to live my life so that people will know ‘fact from fiction’ even if the truth is not what they want to hear.  I want to teach this to my son as well so that he understands his word is his bond because without a good reputation you are nothing. 

Finally, I want to be like Joseph when he was wrongfully accused by Potiphar’s wife but acknowledge that I still have quite a way to go on this spiritual journey of mine because I am more inclined to fight than take flight.  

I am far from perfect but I still do NOT like lies or liars. 

Verse for Reflection

When his master heard the story his wife told him, saying, “This is how your slave treated me,” he burned with anger. Joseph’s master took him and put him in prison, the place where the king’s prisoners were confined. But while Joseph was there in the prison, the Lord was with him; he showed him kindness and granted him favor in the eyes of the prison warden.

Genesis 39:19-21 (NIV)

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4 thoughts on “I Make No Apologies: I Do NOT Like Lies”

  1. Painfully i think the lie is a psychological defence mechanism, have to be with negation of reality that is the first step when we confronto facts that we don’t like, but it’s primitive like an instinct, and the reality always como to the like a frequently hit like a train, that’s how we learn not to tell them.
    Nice post, greetings


  2. Never thought of lying as a defence mechanism but guess that makes sense. Having been burnt by lies and liars I am trying to teach my son the value of owning up and telling the truth which extends into being accountable for his actions. My motto is: if you feel you are man enough to do “x” then you should be man enough to admit it. Tough lessons. Glad you like the post and thanks for taking the time to comment. Have a great day!


  3. So, here is my 10-cent version …

    1. because the devil is a liar and will use whatever tools (animate or inanimate) are made available to hurt you, a child of the Most High.
    2. because they don’t know the ‘real’ you and truth be told, YOU are still trying to find the real you which will only be found buried deep in Christ.
    3. because they see something in you that they wish they had but are either to lazy to go after it, or too scared to walk the path you took to get what you have; then of course, there’s the raging jealousy if what they want is something you were born with/into 🙂
    4. it is ‘expected’ because many people see Christians and their God as wimps; some tend to subscribe to the “Gentle Jesus, meek & mild” version as opposed to God the Warrior/Captain of the Hosts/etc; unfortunately, quite a few Christians’ faith is weakened by the fact that they too have subscriptions to that same edition.
    5.Yep – definitely!!


    1. Wendy, spot on as usual! We Christians/believers are not wimps! With God’s help we are warriros but you still need to go out and be a brave person to take on the devil every single day, not so? Thanks for the reminder 🙂


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