Can you be a “Keeper”? 8 Timely Tips

Photo by Jackie Vanterpool
Photo by Jackie Vanterpool

Is your life full of ‘dees’ right now?  Do you often find yourself disappointed or depressed?  Are you wondering why certain circumstances continue to be delayed in coming to pass?

Maybe you’re unknowingly giving life to something that is dead e.g. a past relationship, an old conflict with your employer or pastor, a friend who hurt you terribly but has since moved on as if you never existed, a job position that you really loved but lost due to downsizing.

Or is it that you’re reflective of others in that recently, there has been an alarming increase in the number of suicides (especially in this little island of Barbados) and so we may find ourselves wondering what situation could be so disappointing or depressingly hopeless that someone would consider taking their own life … yet no-one knows the path of another until he or she has walked in their (more often than not painfully tight) shoes.

After “D” comes … 

But there’s a flip side and according to the word ‘hope’ as a noun refers to the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best.  Hoping is more active than passive.  It involves looking forward with desire and reasonable confidence.  But when events shatter our confidence in life and throw us head first into despair, because what we want cannot be had far less kept, where do we go to find our ‘keeper’ aka that person who will be there for us and support us just when we need them most?

Admittedly, it is very hard these days to be our brother’s/sister’s keeper or to give them hope in the midst of hopelessness.  That’s because most of us hold tightly to our privacy, pushing the challenges of our lives way down into over-sized emotional suitcases filled with secret compartments and securely locked with big brass keys of mistrust (of sharing our personal stories) and fear (of asking for support/love).

Things are happening to people all around us.  Unemployment, domestic abuse, obesity and a myriad of other health issues are choking our communities. Drugs, crime and infidelity are tearing our families apart. Economies are crashing and wars are rampant … who honestly has the time to be someone else’s keeper? It’s a good question! Yet, we must find a way to BE keepers; to help open another’s suitcase while allowing them to look into ours and to share our problems (and solutions) with each other as we walk on this journey of life together. Sounds hard? Maybe, but I strongly believe it can be and should be done if we’re going to make this little world we live in a much better place for ourselves and our children.


So from this day forward then, be encouraged! Let us seek to:

  1. say that kind word even when we don’t feel like it
  2. share our last slice of coconut bread with the co-worker who has no lunch
  3. give a ride home to someone even though it’s not on our route
  4. make time to visit the elderly because we will one day become old too
  5. simply listen with empathy and love instead of judging a friend’s actions
  6. give someone a hug for no reason at all
  7. be generous to the homeless and/or poor
  8. love the unlovable right where they are 🙂

Yes, God is our number one Keeper as the loving Father of us His most precious children BUT as we go about our day to day lives let’s not allow our brother’s blood to cry out to heaven from the ground … because we are all keepers of each other.  Do you agree?

♥ ♥ ♥

More Food for Thought

“We are commanded to seek out those who are lost. We are to be our brother’s keeper.”  Joseph B. Wirthlin

Then the Lord said to Cain, “Where is your brother Abel?”

“I don’t know,” he replied. “Am I my brother’s keeper?”  The Lord said, “What have you done? Listen! Your brother’s blood cries out to me from the ground.  Now you are under a curse and driven from the ground, which opened its mouth to receive your brother’s blood from your hand. When you work the ground, it will no longer yield its crops for you. You will be a restless wanderer on the earth.”  Genesis 4:9-12 (NIV)

“Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you who are cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. For I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, I was a stranger and you did not invite me in, I needed clothes and you did not clothe me, I was sick and in prison and you did not look after me.’

“They also will answer, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or needing clothes or sick or in prison, and did not help you?’ “He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’ “Then they will go away to eternal punishment, but the righteous to eternal life.”  Matthew 25:41-46 (NIV)



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Barbadian mother and lover of laughter; story teller and best-selling author; happy to follow God's lead and to live my mantra: "you've gotta be a rainbow in the lives of others when it rains."

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