How to Take a Time Out from Toxic People

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Image by © Royalty-Free/Corbis

“Don’t let toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and get them out of there.”

Marc Chernoff


Life is short. You do the best you can and then you die; in fact, we all die.  And unfortunately, not once can we go back because there’s absolutely no re-winding of the clock; it’s over when it’s over.

If you’re like me, there comes a time therefore when you pause and finally admit you’ve had enough of toxic people polluting your life. You know the ones.  Those are the individuals who love to gossip with and about you, promote negativity rather than positivity and always see their glass (and yours) as being permanently half empty. There is never any light at the end of the tunnel and if they do see a light, they make sure it’s snuffed out before it can show you the way out into the sunshine.

But if this is indeed your situation, maybe you are not sure as to how you really should go about detoxing your life.  I know I wasn’t but that changed when I came across these 7 Smart Ways to Deal with Toxic People (which I plan to implement immediately):

  1. Move on without them
  2. Stop pretending their toxic behaviour is ok
  3. Speak up!
  4. Put your foot down
  5. Don’t take their toxic behaviour personally
  6. Practice practical compassion
  7. Take time for yourself

And then, there’s this interesting excerpt:

“If you know someone who insists on destructively dictating the emotional atmosphere, then be clear: they are toxic. If you are suffering because of their attitude, and your compassion, patience, advice, and general attentiveness doesn’t seem to help them, and they don’t seem to care one bit, then ask yourself, “Do I need this person in my life?”

When you delete toxic people from your environment it becomes a lot easier to breathe. If the circumstances warrant it, leave these people behind and move on when you must. Seriously, be strong and know when enough is enough! Letting go of toxic people doesn’t mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm; it simply means you care about your own well-being.”

Seems obvious right? But there are lots more details available so read the entire article here and if you still think it can’t be done, why not check out an earlier post I shared on How Hard is Hard? ; why?  Because life is definitely not as hard as it could be.

So come, let’s go out and resolve to live toxic free lives as much as possible; it can be done!

NB: Info shared here today is compliments of this super cool site 🙂


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Barbadian mother and lover of laughter; story teller and best-selling author; happy to follow God's lead and to live my mantra: "you've gotta be a rainbow in the lives of others when it rains."

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