“Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art… It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival.”
What an interestingly profound quote! Who can survive without a good friend? Not many. Yet we sometimes take these special people who exist in our lives for granted, albeit unintentionally.
So let’s pause a bit and take a look at our friendship inventory. Do you have a really good friend? Someone who is there for you through ‘thick or thin’? A loyal supporter who doesn’t hesitate to keep ‘it real’?
Well, I hope you do because there’s nothing better than having a good friend to call on especially when you really need a helping hand (or two).
If you answered yes to the questions above, it follows that you should ask yourself next: ‘what have you done for them lately to show how much you value their friendship?’
What I like most is that friendships usually mature with age. That’s when you can look across a crowded room, give your friend ‘the look’ and they understand exactly what you are thinking without either of you uttering a single word. It’s when you haven’t heard someone for a while but when you finally connect, it’s as if you heard each other yesterday (this is exactly what happened to my Auntie – on left in photo – and the friend she hadn’t seen in years).
But let me offer a word of warning. Friendships require maintenance just like any other relationship. You need to ‘water the grass’ with communication, thoughtfulness, empathy and love for it to keep growing.
So take my advice because tomorrow is not promised. We only have today to do what needs to be done. Call up your friend(s) or send them a greeting card just to let them know how much you appreciate them being in your life. Surprise them with flowers or a ‘just because’ gift. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you DO SOMETHING.
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NIV)