Know your friends!

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“While he was still speaking, Judas, one of the Twelve, arrived. With him was a large crowd armed with swords and clubs, sent from the chief priests and the elders of the people. Now the betrayer had arranged a signal with them: “The one I kiss is the man; arrest him.” Going at once to Jesus, Judas said, “Greetings, Rabbi!” and kissed him.
Jesus replied, “Do what you came for, friend.”
Then the men stepped forward, seized Jesus and arrested him.”
Matthew 26:47-50 (NIV)


What or who is a friend? A friend is someone you trust, someone you kiss and hug. This person can hold your love and in most cases carry a secret or two for you. He or she can be a work-mate, a fellow believer in your church or a mentor. A friend can even be family.

So imagine. Being betrayed. By a friend. With a kiss. After this person has warmly greeted and hugged you close.

The thing is that most of us do not have to imagine. I am sure you have experienced a “Judas Kiss” type of betrayal first hand and can think back to a time when you were deeply hurt and terribly disappointed by a so-called friend. Yet I believe these feelings are magnified even more when the betrayal falls even closer. Judas wasn’t simply a friend of Jesus. As one of the disciples he would have been the next best thing to family. They would have intimately shared good times, bad times and in between times. They would have prayed together, worshipped together and rejoiced after the incredible miracles. I always ask myself: “What was Judas thinking?” But that’s not a fair question, because if not Judas then who? Someone had to betray Jesus so He would eventually be crucified for our sins … not so?

While listening to this gospel one Sunday at Mass another series of questions jumped out at me:

  • Even now, all these years later, don’t we ourselves continue to betray Jesus ever so often?
  • How many times have we judged others, been impatient, hard and un-compassionate, while being unwilling to give or support?
  • How often have we slept in late rather than go out to church?
  • Do we usually not fail to turn the other cheek, preferring instead to lash out in defense of perceived injustices against our sound character and good reputation?

Hmmmmmm …. hard questions indeed and just a little something to think more about. As for me, there is much work still to be done on this human being right here. In closing out this post then, my prayer is that God will continue to pour His blessings over us His children, that He may inspire us to always trust in Him – in spite of friends who betray us – day by day by day.

Thanks for visiting and here’s to friends and friendship!

“But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.”
Jeremiah 17:7-8 (NIV)


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Do not fear when the heat comes … and it will come

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“But blessed is the one who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in Him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.”  Jeremiah 17:7-8 (NIV) 

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Death is a funny thing.  Even in the midst of our darkest hours, God allows beautiful sceptres of light to filter their way through our fog of grief and brighten the innermost circle of our hearts.  And remember: death is not limited to the loss of a loved one; there is the death of a job/career, the death of a marriage, the death of a relationship (friend, co-worker, child, mum or dad) or even the death of something more tangible like a house or a vehicle.

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How do you find rest for your soul?

I love to read. From an early age I was addicted to books. I read in the car on the way to and from school, read at the lunch table when I started to work, and can go way into the wee hours of the morning with my beloved Kindle. I loved to write just as much as I loved to read and so am happy that I have been able to find a great way to marry these two skills. How? By sharing not only my experiences but also thoughts on great books I have read or am currently reading.  Which brings me back to “God’s Purpose for Every Woman” (you can click to purchase on my Inspirational Reads page) because really, it’s an excellent book which has me doing some serious thinking about my life.

In a chapter I read over the weekend entitled “Crossroads” I came across this verse (taken from Jeremiah 6:16):

This is what the LORD says: “Stand at the crossroads and look; ask for the ancient paths, ask where the good way is, and walk in it, and you will find rest for your souls. But you said, ‘We will not walk in it.’

The author related this verse to her life by giving an example of how she got lost one day because she refused to read a map. As a result it took her two hours longer to get home than originally planned. Well I usually get lost even after I read a map, but I was sure God was speaking directly to me. How many times had I asked Him to “show me the way Lord, just show me the way; I am so lost I don’t know which way is up but here I am so can you help me out?” And then again, how many times had I said (after making that plea: “Well you know what? I am not walking that road because it’s going to take me way too long to get me to where I want to be; I’m a short cut girl who hates traffic and my way seems to be much better.”

In looking back over some of my decisions, I had to admit that I had asked for the good way but willingly walked the bad way while wondering why my soul was so tortured and anxious. To bring it closer to home it’s like buying a new piece of exercise equipment, trying to set it up without reading the instructions and then getting upset when it doesn’t quite work how it’s supposed to.

Maybe you can’t relate but to those of you who can, let’s see if we can work harder at standing and taking a hard look at our crossroads. Then let’s ask for the ancient paths and where the good way is before more importantly walking it. The verse promises that if we do this we will find rest for our souls so it’s worth a try. What do we have to lose – except our peace of mind? Join me as I stand at my crossroad and let us help each other in finding the good way so that we can walk in it – together.

Verse for Reflection

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.

Psalm 23:1-3 (KJV)

Beautiful Barbados – a place to rest your soul beside still waters